A Message From Michael…


My Very First Japanese Speech

Just a quick one, this is what I’ve been busy trying to get done within the past few weeks.

My very first speech in a foreign language. I was challenged to do it by an associate of mine as part of an annual speech contest held in Tokyo. Because I’ve helped a few people in the past with presentation skills, I was asked to enter as a special guest.

However, the catch was that it had to be in full Japanese.

Took me several weeks to practice. Mind you, prior to giving the speech, I haven’t studied much of the language outside simple phone apps and the occasional textbook.

Of course I did get a lot of help with it from a friend, a lot of it is also self-taught.

Here’s how it went…

For two years in a row, I have mentored proteges who have become champions of this contest. But now it was my turn to show that I can do this too.

This was the most Japanese I’ve ever spoken in my life. For some reason, I wasn’t nervous at all. I’ve done loads and loads of presentations before, so the fear of speaking in front of an audience wasn’t a big deal.

As you can see, the speech was fully memorized and I had no notes or cards.

Thanks to all those who supported me through this process.

Perhaps I’ll take this language a little more seriously now.

mflogosmall


Finding Your Passions – Myths, Caveats and Cognitions

2015_1205_19494400Okay, so it’s been a while. I haven’t touched my PC in a long time as I’ve been out and about so consistently. I’ve had so many international friends visit me and I’ve been taking them around to do all the touristy stuff. But there’s been a lot of stuff on my mind that just have to be put in writing.

Among those things, were a discussion with some friends and I about a cliche little topic relating to ‘finding your passions’.

Sounds deep, doesn’t it?

It’s not something I usually like to talk about, as I’d usually spend my time thinking about the next meal I’m gonna have next (typical M Flo).

Out of all the marketing spree and lead generation sprinkled all over this page, why suddenly such a personal topic?

As you may remember, that’s also the theme of this blog in the first place. And this is me (Michael) writing this one lol. For real.

I was asked to give some notes about this actually, so I thought I might as well do a blog post about it. I’ve had a lot to talk about and share, but I’ll just touch on the key stuff in this post mainly. Don’t wanna bore you lot for too long haha.

In any case, just to recap – I’ll get straight to the point.

When I had a discussion with some friends, I addressed two things rather immediately;

  1. Nobody can find your passions for you.
  2. And you most likely already know what it is

As for the first one, that should be bloody obvious. But to some, they haven’t actually thought about that. They usually run to the nearest coach or motivational speaker (I’m not any of those things, by the way) in order to get some kind of magic pill or secret solution. The thing is, nobody can really truly understand you as much as you would yourself.

You have your own unique experiences, tastes, and situations in your life. Nobody can really fully comprehend how you see it through your eyes directly. That’s why only you can decide what you’re truly ‘passionate’ about and that’s why nobody can do it for you.

Stop looking for a magic pill or solution from someone guru or expert. Come up with your own answers and decide for yourself what it is you want to pursue in life.

Let’s address the second part and that’s really the main meat of what I want to talk about here.

Read it again:

You probably already know what you’re passionate about.

Now that above statement could be a bit point blank for some of you. And you’re probably got a lot of questions now. Like, if that’s the case, why are people still stuck and why am I writing this?

Calm down, I’m getting to that.

So you probably already know what your passion (or passions) is (are). But you could be stuck in some of these situations:

a) You know what your passion is – but you deny it.

b) You know what your passion is – but you forgot (maybe because you’ve been denying it for so long).

c) You’ve changed over time. What you were passionate about before may be different from what you want now.

or d) You just have no holy freakin’ idea about what you really want. (Don’t panic, this is the easiest one to address, which I’ll cover later.)

Okay, let’s start with the first one.

I don’t mean to step on any toes, but a lot of people actually deny their passions for many reasons.

But there are the main biggest excuses I mean, reasons why people deny their passions:cashmoneyMoney – One of the biggest things a lot of people get stuck on. Let’s face it, a lot of things you want to do will require money. Travelling the world requires some serious cash. So does sending your kids to school and helping the poor, etc.

 

Now there are many many many ways to solve the money issue, as there are a plethora of different ways to make cash other than your job (as indicated in many articles in this blog).

But I’m not here to address that right now. The one main thing about money I want to drive home this time are these BS myths about money:

  • Money is the root of all evil
  • Money can’t buy happiness

Sound familiar?

Let’s think about that for a moment – if money is evil and you need money to follow your passions, does that mean your passions are evil? That’s some BS ain’t it?

And if money can’t buy happiness, what about the phrase, “You only get what you pay for”? Aren’t they a bit contradictory?

I remember a quote by a once famous internet marketer who once said:

“Money can’t buy happiness, but neither does being a broke asshole.”

That’s the main thing people should realize. Money is not evil. It’s just a necessity in order to live. Like food, water, shelter. Are those things evil? Of course not. You need air to breathe. You don’t say air is evil, do you?

Start changing your belief about money.

I’ll finish this one with a quote from the Godfather :

“This contempt for money is just another trick of the rich to keep the poor without it.”

Now the second thing I want to address, that people get stuck on is this one major one.

It’s the issue of Time.

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Instead of heading into controversial territory, of course many people make the excuse give the reason that they don’t have enough time to do what they want to do.

They have deadlines, appointments, people to take care of, and so on.

But here’s the thing – we only have 24 hours a day. So why are some people living this passions and so many are not?

It’s simple.

It’s their priorities. That’s really just it. Some people argue that it’s just time management.

You can’t manage time. You only have 24 hours in a day. But you can sure as hell manage your priorities.

Now I can’t do that for you (either get an assistant or there are courses on ‘priority management’). You have to sort out your own priorities.

What’s most important to you?

Is it the deadlines your boss gave you? Your family? Your hobbies? Your career?

What tasks do you absolutely need to address now, and which ones can be done later?

Which tasks can be omitted and what new tasks should be added?

Are the things that you do actually productive or just ‘busy‘?

Think about it. Sit down and consider all the things you’re doing throughout the day.

Are you achieving the results you want? Are you growing closer to it?

Okay, so that’s the issue of time. Go and ask yourself those questions.

Next is another big one.

This is one I struggled with for a while, but this could set you free or bind you in shackles.

This problem is basically…

opinions

Other people’s opinions.

Yes, this is a dreaded monster. It could potentially by the biggest thing holding you back and could even tie in with the first two.

Other people’s judgement, other people’s thoughts. Other people’s own rules that they make you follow – these could all be what’s holding you back.

Deep down, you may be thinking – oh what will he/she think if I did this? What will they think if this or that?

Who are ‘they’ exactly?

These people could be your:

  • Friends
  • Coworkers
  • Boss
  • And even Family members!

Now with the last three, you probably can’t do much about them, since the choice isn’t really yours. But you sure as hell can choose your friends.

Think about it really carefully – do you really need to cut off some people?

Are there anyone in particular who’s bringing you down?

Some of them may not be doing it on purpose. Some of your friends probably genuinely care about you (in their own way, which may not always coincide with your true ideals).

Now are you seeing why this is so difficult?

Some of these people can be long time friends. People could change over time.

Maybe some of them are jealous.

A million different scenarios here.

Think about it really seriously.

Who are your true friends?

I’ll finish this one off with a quote I kinda made up myself :

“The first step to realizing your worth is to cut off the people who don’t.”

PART 2 COMING SOON

 


Leaders Are Always Readers – Such a Cliche Phrase

MIchaelangelo Flores-106The phrase is definitely cliche. It’s been said over and over again. And there’s a reason.

Think about it. Most people who are titans of industry are often avid readers. Most people in top positions, the most powerful roles all read something in some way, shape or form.

Of course there are endless benefits of reading.

You activate your imagination and become smarter as you think about the material.

You actually gain the knowledge or information that the book is presenting.

It can be one of the most powerful sources of self development, growth and new concepts.

In fact, I personally read a lot to increase my vocabulary and increase ways to articulate and express my opinions.

So many other psychological benefits but I won’t get into them all here as this will take another thesis to write and I want to keep it short and simple.

I want to provide a list of recommended books out of my personal list that you should try.

These are obviously my own personal recommendation in terms of general self growth and personal development, for whatever profession you’re in.

This is in no particular order by the way.

Here are some I highly recommend and why:

  • The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy – Written by a guy who is well versed in both religion and psychology (something that would seem often mutually exclusive), he explains about how the mind actually works, how faith works, and things about the placebo effect, etc. in a very easy to understand format.
  • The New Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz – An ancient book, but pretty much is one of the cornerstone texts regarding self confidence and achieving goals. A lot of successful athletes, actors and business people swear by it. I am still currently reading it again as I write this. Also gives you a number of exercises to implement too, which are very handy.
  • The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene – A controversial book, but definitely an interesting read. The title is self explanatory. I don’t necessarily agree with all the principles but you can use your own discernment and decide for yourself what to think.
  • How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie – This was an obvious one. The basics of dealing with people. The title says it all. Although it is a bit dated, there is a plethora of gold nuggets here. I still read this from time to time every once in a while.
  • Skill With People by Les Giblin – Very similar to the previous book. But this is like the pocket version of it.
  • Psychiatry, the Ultimate Betrayal by Bruce Wiseman – Another highly controversial book that I just started reading recently. Haven’t finished it yet but pretty much hints on how to control people.
  • The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill – Huge read. Pretty much the original Think and Grow Rich but this one is the director’s cut, I’d say. May take you a while but this is probably one of the bibles of self development.
  • The Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz – Again, one of the cornerstones of self improvement. Must read and a great, easy to read book. Talks about dealing with excuses, feeding your brain, etc.
  • The Magic of Believing by Claude Bristol – Very handy and short little book. A lot of eye openers here but I found real value in it being easy to read and a breeze to go through. Like a pocket version of a really good self improvement book.

That will be all for now. Of course I have a more definitive list but I have too many books.

Read these books multiple times and you’ll get benefits each time. You can probably even download the audio formats for some of these books somewhere, which would also be useful if you’re traveling.

If you want some more recommendations, feel free to connect with me.

My e-mail is michael@michaelangeloflores.com

or Connect with me on Facebook by clicking the box on the right.

Good luck!

mflogosmall


Brutal and Honest Truth About the Elite Cash System by Ares Navarro and Ace Reddy

Elite Cash System – now what the heck?

Alright folks, so it’s highly obvious and noticeable that I’ve now been pushing this whole Elite Affiliate Academy thing by Ace Reddy and Ares Navarro, and now they’ve come up with this thing called the Elite Cash System.

You’ve already heard or seen some of my reviews of the Elite Affiliate Academy, which is something different though still related. You can check out my review for that here.

I lay it out pretty cut and dry in that other post. I even demonstrated the course in one of the videos and from the looks of it, it’s still evolving and expanding.

What Exactly is the Elite Cash System then?

I cut a quick video about it and here you can have a quick look at the backoffice here:

So basically in the video, I explain that the Elite Cash System is basically a front end product for the Academy. Plain and simple.

It’s the front end part of a funnel that gets people in then upsells them into the Academy. A low ticket product to cover your initial expense in the beginning but the main product is of course, the Academy.

What Kind of Product is the Elite Cash System Though?

As I mentioned in the video, there is a boatload of content in this thing. To be honest, as I also mentioned, I didn’t have to buy this product because I was an early member of the Academy so I don’t know exactly how the Elite Cash System is priced nowadays. But it covers the raw basics of making money online as well as many relevant things in today’s world, rather than some other washed up, rehashed guru stuff.

You can use the same information for your own business too, but mainly the online stuff. The Elite Cash System pretty much nails that you gotta be online or at least have an online presence. In any case, I show in the video what kind of content you’re in for.

So as a stand alone product, it’s way more than it’s estimated value but that’s just my opinion. You may feel a bit of bias since I’m bloody promoting it, but hey I’ve promoted other things too (and still am) so let me show you what exactly why…

Does the Elite Cash System Actually Work?

elitecashsystem-saleEven the damn founders of the company shouting me out, but hey that’s a bonus. Yeah, we are in cohoots and I’m not ashamed of that. But the results from the Elite Cash System were all cold. No harassing people, no pitching people, no spamming in groups. The funnel sure as hell converts.

In fact, if you’re my legit Facebook friend (on my personal account) you’d notice I hardly post anything marketing-ish as much anymore. That’s cause I don’t have to.

I don’t even mention the Elite Cash System (excluding tagged posts) nor internet marketing stuff on my personal wall anyway.

What more can I say? Curious? Why does it convert so well?

See the Elite Cash System for yourself

In any case, before I start to sound too salesly and pitchy, I’ll leave it here. Results are results. Up to you what to do next.

Let’s not forget also, the Elite Affiliate Academy itself is also bangin… LOL

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Obviously these results are not typical, blah blah blah. Whatever disclaimer I need to put. There’s no guarantee you’ll make this, etc. etc. You know how it goes.

Any questions about the Elite Cash System or anything else in general, feel free to reach out as usual.

mflogosmall


Overrated? First time Shabu Shabu with Premium A5 Kobe Beef

Okay, lifestyle post.

It’s been a while since I’ve done one of these. This space here isn’t just for all this marketing and make money online stuff.

There’s the atelier section where I dump all lifestyle related bragging and stroking of my ego and whatnot.

So today’s episode is about the infamous beef from Kobe Japan that is sort of world renowned.

Well at least I hear a lot about it.

zakuro3So what’s so special about Kobe beef?

Well, firstly its mainly how they feed the cows. Apparently they take special care of them, which you can look up yourself by Googling it. A few things to note apparently are things such as giving beer to the cows, massaging them to relax and even playing classical music in the background for the cows. What the heck? Don’t quote me on that.

But anyway, how does it taste?

zakuro1Needless to say, this stuff was nothing short of ultimate. We sampled the highest grade, premium A5 Kobe beef. You’ll probably hear it from many people, but this shit just melts in your mouth.

Like meat-flavored butter, in a way. For some, this may be far too rich, or even disgusting. But then there’s also the less fatty A4 grade, which we also had. But for a deity, A5 is certainly the one to go for.

Speaking of which, what is Shabu Shabu?

zakuro4In short, it’s basically a hot pot. You cook the meat in the pot and boil it yourself. Then dip it into a sauce of your choice. Pretty simple but exquisite.

There are also other ways to have Kobe beef, and in this restaurant (Zakuro Ginza) they also serve this in Sukiyaki form (which I’ve had a number of times in the past) but this night was about the Shabu Shabu.

Badass shit.

Anyway, thanks for reading. Expect more food related posts in the future, as it’s become a recent passion of mine. Especially when it comes to luxury cuisine. First Beluga Caviar, now Premium Kobe Beef (this isn’t the second rate crap you buy from the convenience store btw), and I wonder what’s next?

We’ll see eventually… stay tuned…

mflogosmall

 


Is the Copywriting Mastery Course from Elite Affiliate Academy the Real Deal?

Okay, so now I’m posting a little more now. Why?

Like I said previously, I’ve been exploring this Elite Affiliate Academy stuff by Ace Reddy and so far so good. After diving in deeper, I’ve come across this Copywriting Mastery Course while I’ve tried the other content within this program and so far here are my thoughts.

I used to outsource all my copy. All the stuff I used to run were all done by either a third party or copy and pasted. The conversions? Not at all bad but I was sometimes spending more money than I was making, sometimes breaking even. You don’t want to lose money. You want to make more. Can this Elite Affiliate Academy provide the solution to end all your grinding or is this just another guru system that’s just like all the others?

There you have it. If you suck at copywriting, the Elite Affiliate Academy Copywriting Mastery Course is for you. You can come up with killer ads instantly without having to do rocket science. Just don’t be a scammer with this dangerous skill.

It’s also funny to see the things that Ace Reddy comes up with on the spot. In fact, a lot of the courses in this Elite Affiliate Academy is also quite controversial but effective.

After this, you’ll stop being too petrified to create your own landers and start getting people to buy like you’re some kind of magician. Some of these are ridiculously simplistic, you’ll start to wonder why you haven’t been applying some of these copywriting techniques and why you’ve bought into the other BS before.

Sounds like a tall order, I know. Well you can either try out the Elite Affiliate Academy or you can just buy someone else’s shit and learn outdated techniques that’s been saturated anyway. If you’re still on the fence about it, you can watch my general overview of the Elite Affiliate Academy here.

If you want to get in and start dominating, go ahead and stop being scammed – buy it now while it’s available : http://www.michaelangeloflores.com/recommends/elite-affiliate-academy

mflogosmall


Before you buy the Elite Affiliate Academy by Ace Reddy

Alright, so I’m actually updating this again believe it or not LOL. And it IS me, not a ghostwriter.

So as I mentioned in the past I’ve been undercover and testing a lot of things on the marketing side. So I’ve been trying to dive back into CPA / Affiliate Marketing in order to expand and scale up.

In regards to CPA, I’ve pretty much dug up some courses on this avenue, most notably this Elite Affiliate Academy by this guy Ace Reddy. To be honest, this is just some dude I came across on Facebook one day, started seeing his posts about CPA and other controversial stuff on my news feed as he attacks and slams on scamming gurus and just doesn’t give two shits about what most people think.

Could be his angle but I decided to just check this guy out and buy a course or two of his just to check his stuff out as I did also hear a lot of positive reviews about this dude and a lot of recommendations so I thought, hey I got some cash to spend so let’s give it a look.

So here we have this Elite Affiliate Academy or Elite Affiliate Group which are pretty much the same thing, I suppose.

Here’s a quick look or rather, a preview of the members area I got access into:

Obviously I can’t spoil the content in this video since this stuff is paid. But you can see the content in there and what they are about specifically.

As I mentioned, there are specific steps you can take with this course that you can pretty much tailor for yourself. The unique thing about the Elite Affiliate Academy is that it’s basically a proper course that teaches you actually CPA tactics and strategies, not just some cookie cutter system that sets you up to promote another guru’s funnel.

What does this mean? It means you can pretty much use the information in the Elite Affiliate Academy to create your own CPA or Affiliate Marketing empire.

The steps are pretty much simple;

Get approved by the CPA networks

Choose a vertical and and some offers

Choose a traffic source to master (It’s all in there)

Start advertising (it’s shown step by step)

Test and track (again, shown step by step)

Of course this is a simplified version of how I understood it, but there’s more in there you can do to scale up and even automate your CPA business. There’s also some tools they show and teach you about, with some white hat and black hat stuff (you can decide for yourself how you wanna go about this).

In most of the training in the Elite Affiliate Academy, you’ll get a lot of shots fired at many other guru systems which a lot of you seem familiar with as well as a bit of profanity, so if you’re soft and easily offended, you should probably go buy someone else’s course (and probably get scammed…again).

In any case, I’ll continue to go through the content and update you more about the Elite Affiliate Academy later, but so far I’m enjoying it and already able to put many things into practice.

Once again, feel free to add me on Facebook and hit me up with a message if you want to know more or just wanna connect. But please send a message first and tell me you came from the blog. I got a lot of random people adding me without introducing themselves lol.

Anyway, thanks for stopping by and hope you enjoyed the video.

If you’re sick and tired of being scammed by all these gurus who teach you nothing but to promote their funnels, get in here and learn some real techniques : http://www.michaelangeloflores.com/recommends/elite-affiliate-academy

mflogosmall


Can’t Believe it’s 2017 already!

mflocruiseMy God I can’t believe it’s been more than a year since I updated this joint!

Yeah I’ve been lazy. But you know what? I’ve also been productive. For the first half of 2016 I was preparing for a big life change. And that’s moving to another country.

Mind you, I haven’t moved to a new country since I was 10 years old. Where did I move to?

It should be quite obvious by now….

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Yes, I’ve moved to Japan. I just couldn’t help it. I’ve been to many places around the world, from the US, Europe and all around Asia. I thought to myself, this is where I want to be for the time being, after living in Australia for most of my life.

So yes, I’ve been a little busy, just tearing this place up yet again. Also I’ve had like, no internet for the initial part of my adventure, so yeah that’s another… uh… ‘reason’ LOL.

Anyway I’m back, and aside from the move, hell yes there’s been a lot of news, not just in terms of personal life but in terms of business also. But first I gotta say, I thought 2015 was the best damn year of my life, but 2016 really put the previous year to shame. However, 2017 is shaping up to be a storm right from the beginning. A storm of badassery, of course.

Things have been going through an overhaul recently, in life and in business. Settling in Tokyo wasn’t easy, but now that I’m more comfortable and ready to cause some damage, it’s time to get back in the swing of things, in terms of business.

The TMM software that I’ve been promoting is also going through an overhaul so more updates to come on that, if you’re on my list already. If not, go ahead and sign up for free. Don’t worry, I won’t spam – I’m too lazy to even do that lol.

In any case, this is just an update post to show that I’m still alive. Feel free to follow me on Facebook as I mainly update shit from there: https://www.facebook.com/michaelangelo.flores

Til next time

mflocigar

“I swear to God man, I ain’t known a bad day in so long. You know, thank God.” – T.I


2016 – The Best Is Yet To Come

Okay, late New Years post. And there’s a reason which I am sure you have guessed.

Again, I was on holiday. What a surprise (sarcasm). This time, I was venturing into somewhere completely different.

After all the stints I’ve been having in Japan, I ended up finishing off 2015 in Europe:

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12508930_10153217910386196_6914703275953073689_nWent all around the joint including Germany, Austria, Switzerland, Italy – majority done by car. More photos in my personal Facebook so feel free to add me or send me a message telling me who you are (Amazing places in Munich, Milano, Como, etc. Too epic of a journey to summarize here).

So that pretty much explains my recent absence (yet again). There’s a lot I can say about the previous year, and although I didn’t update the site much, there was a lot that happened. Long story short, I’d probably say 2015, the year past was probably the absolute best ever. Partied like a rock star, saw and visited places I’ve never been before, met some unforgettable people and more doors have been opened than ever before.

However, 2016 just started off with a blast. In fact, I was still touring around Europe at the dawn of this year and I actually just got back (hence the late post lol).

But that doesn’t mean I’ve been slack with business or anything. My new funnel is complete and you can go find out here exactly how to build yourself a gigantic list without doing all the grindy stuff (I am blogging now just for fun and sharing, not necessarily to ‘pump out content’).

As always I keep up my ‘confidence habits’ that I mentioned in a previous post. Still reading more, listening more and learning more.

So what’s next? Well I’ll be focusing mainly on List Building even harder than ever now while still enjoying life and other hobbies.

Honestly, you gotta have love for the game. You’ll never be successful in anything if you don’t love what you do.

The focus will be once again to get more done with less effort (efficiency). I can show you how to do that here.

Here’s to a much better year than the last! (Although 2015, set the bar very very high already hehe…)


Simple but Effective Ways to Build Confidence, Self-Worth and Badassery

MIchaelangelo Flores-36_1Okay, so this topic came up a lot in discussions with me and my peers. A lot of people say that people can only be born leaders and are just blessed with confidence from the get go. Now this is probably something that can be debated endlessly and rightfully so in another discussion. I’m not here for that right now. However, I do not consider myself someone who was ‘born’ with leadership qualities. I wasn’t ‘born’ with all the mindset, all the concepts, the confidence and pretty much the notion of having my own way of thinking and discernment (probably will address this in another post).

To have confidence, self-assurance, trust and belief in one’s self was something that, in my opinion, I had to develop over time rather than ‘being born with it’. Without beating around the bush, here are some of the things I used as building blocks to feel a lot better about myself, gain more knowledge, increase self-awareness, and move forward in life without much worry or stress.

Here are some of them:

  • Reading – Probably one of the most important ones, hence why I listed this one first. Reading has so many damn benefits that aren’t very well-known, it’s not even funny. One of these benefits is that it engages your imagination. Think of your brain as a muscle. Reading books and using your imagination is a form of exercise. There’s also the fact that you’re not as dumb as you were before you read whatever book you’re reading. More knowledge always helps. Reading books definitely causes damage to one’s ignorance. I’m not talking about fiction books (although they are still good somewhat). I’m talking more about books related to your field of interest, or if none are relevant, try reading personal development and psychology books. It’s always good to try and understand better what is probably the greatest mystery of all – the self. In my case, I read a whole host of different books, from psychology, communication, leadership as well as even marketing and business. The importance of reading cannot be underscored enough. In fact, I can probably spend an entire article writing about this (it’s that important) but for now, let’s keep it at that for now.

 

  • Audios – Similar reasons and benefits from reading, but tapping into a different quadrant of the brain now. This one is probably one of my personal favorites. Mainly because, unlike books, audios are rather hands-free and you can just listen to audio files in the background while you are doing something else. I tend to listen to audio files about personal development, seminar recordings, and even audio versions of the books I read, which are not that hard to find online. Very useful if you’re on the move a lot like I am. Even while I’m driving, walking, or even exercising, I am listening to an audio file of something that can feed my mind with something positive, motivating and educational. And yes, this means that once in a while, you will have to give up some time away from actual music. Don’t worry, I haven’t stopped listening to music or anything. But at least once a day, I play an audio in the background.

 

  • Associations – If the first three in this list are in the shape of a triangle, this one would be one of the points. It’s just as important as the previous two, but I admit for some people, it could probably be the one that takes the most effort. I’m talking about associating yourself with people who are like-minded. Remember the whole ‘birds of the same feather flock together’ or whatever it was? That’s pretty much what I’m getting at. You make friends with idiots, you become one. You make friends with winners, guess what happens? I think you get the point. As I said, this will probably take more effort than the others since it requires you to sort out who your friends are and most probably get out of your way and make some new ones. The best place to do this is at events. Gatherings, functions, that sort of thing. You can bring a squad or go solo (like I do sometimes, especially when I land in a different country for the first time), it doesn’t matter. Try to build and establish new relationships. Fair enough there will be some people you won’t like, but the point is to at least try. You never know when you meet someone who’s interests are in line with yours.

 

  • Health – A broad subject, yes. But I’m talking about general health. That includes diet and exercise. Not to get complicated or anything, but having good physical health has huge benefits towards your mental health as well. Eat good food (I’m not a nutritionist, so you will have to do a bit of research on what’s best for you) and exercise regularly (up to you to decide, based on your schedule and commitments, what ‘regularly’ means for you). Do anything physical. Yoga, Pilates, whatever. I tend to do weight training, sprinting and other stuff. You don’t need to go crazy and enter a bodybuilding comp. Just as long as your body actually moves instead of sitting in a cubicle at all day and on the couch all night. Again, this is probably another topic that could take an entire article of content to talk about, but for now, this is enough to chew on.

 

  • Martial Arts – Now I didn’t include this in exercise. Why? Cause I don’t consider Martial Arts merely to be an ‘exercise for fitness’, although it can have fitness as a side benefit somehow. But why does this help gain confidence and self esteem? Put it this way – life is a battle.  Learning the art of battle, in many ways, prepares you for the battle of life. Martial arts not only grants you techniques to make you feel confident, safe and secure but also gives you a discipline and mentality that prepares you for many of life’s trials. The art itself doesn’t matter as much as the instructor does. Find a good teacher. Doesn’t matter if you’re short, tall, skinny, fat, male or female, etc. You will find something that suits you and makes you feel like you can take on challenges. What else builds confidence more than the mindset to take on new challenges?

 

Let’s start off with these five above. I admit, they are fairly broad and I can easily expand on each one, but for now, these are the basic, general overview which you can probably find subcategories of activities relating to them. Some of these require a bit of effort and thinking but a lot of these are ridiculously simplistic and very achievable.

What methods you do recommend? Please share with me any of your experiences or recommendations when you can 🙂